2/5/2001 "This past week ss was scheduled for Robotics each night til 8pm thru 4
next days, so I offer to wash his clothes, and offer his stepsister to
clean the cat box. He refuses. We won't do it right.
He's home early, about 5pm each night instead of 8pm, manages to do
his laundry so he has socks for the week.
And today his socks arrived in the mail.
*grin*
Concerned Stepmom
2/16/2001 Ss says he must skip 2 hr robotics meeting cuz tons of homework. I
ask him, "What's the homework?" A 4 pg dbl spaced report. I
ask, "How long have you known about it?" He says a few weeks.
I've learned to verify w/teacher. She says he's had 7 weeks to do the
report. He's got all his notes and the report should only take him a few
hours.
Dh tells him he's not going to miss robotics, he's doing 2 pages
tonight, and 2 pages Mon nt when he's home from biomom.
Biomom doesn't let him do homework at her house - it takes away from
her time with him.
Biomom had called dh last night cordially explaining she needs to
talk to ss before she picks him up Sat morn.
So I have ss call her 5:45pm after robotics, before homework. He
usually talks to her on his phone upstairs, but when he has to call long
distance, he has to use my phone.
I hear him say resentfully, "(stepmom) won't let me miss
robotics and I have tons of homework. Any free time I want comes
last."
Grrr...he neglects to tell her he's known about it for 7 weeks, it'll
only take a couple hours, his dad firmly told him the boundaries his dad
personally demanded.
I don't say anything. It wouldn't help. We'll continue to enforce our
own boundaries, and biomom will always want to believe what helps her
feel like we're terrible parents and she's rescuing ss.
Concerned Stepmom
"She" can be one too!
When you look at the deadbeat sites, ask yourself if you're
behaving like a deadbeat, and remember that men are victims of "her"
deadbeat mentality also.
