backAdult Children of Alcoholic and Dysfunctional Family (ACOA) Incest Survivors
ACOA Incest Meeting
The Definition
Incest is an act of power against a child which takes a sexual form. It is the violation and betrayal of the sexual innocence of a child. We define incestuous acts to include suggestive or seductive talk or behavior directed at a child; any unwanted invasive touching, including kissing, wrestling and tickling; non-medical enemas; showing a child pornography or nudity; sexual fondling; oral sex; sodomy; and/or intercourse. Incest survivors come from both sexes and all economic and social backgrounds, races, religions nationalities and sexual preferences. It is not uncommon for an incest survivor to wonder if the experience really happened or if they imagined it. What is important for YOU to realize is that children do not, on their own, imagine situations of sexual arousal or violation. That information is not within their realm of knowledge. As adults, if you think something happened to you, it probably did. The truth is shown by the emotions you feel as you try to remember.
The emphasis of incest recovery is on understanding the violation of trust we experienced at the hands of those who were supposed to be our protectors. Incest perpetrators may have been parents, older siblings, other family members, family friends, neighbors babysitters, members of the clergy, teachers, doctors or others in a position of authority over the child. Incases where we were repeatedly exposed to our perpetrators, we lost what should have been our birthright -- a safe place in which to grow up. Having to continue to associate with our perpetrators in our daily and nightly childhood lives, our ability to trust was destroyed. Our very childhood itself was betrayed. We lived in an environment of abuse so devastating that, to survive it, many of us lived in physical illnesses, sexual obsessions, severe depression, and/or suicidal tendencies. These were the survival techniques of very inventive children, determined to live beyond our torment. We give thanks to the child who was, because she or he did whatever was necessary to allow us to survive the horror and be alive today. But now it is necessary that we begin to leave behind survival techniques which no longer serve us.
Be very clear that there is not and never has been a taboo against committing incest; the taboo has been against talking about it. In this meeting of Adult Children of Alcoholics, we break that taboo. We are a gathering of women and men determined to remember, speak, be heard and heal. We use the 12 Steps of Recovery, these meetings, these rooms and the telephone as part of our process. Above all, we guard our safety and privacy. What is shared here is not for gossip, comment or outside conversation. Remember, we are only as sick as our secrets. Here in this room, we give voice to those secrets, and we heal. As we share our truths and rediscover our love, we want you to know that you are not to blame, and you are not alone.
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