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ACOA Incest Survivors 90 Minute Meeting Format

Hello, my name is ______________. Welcome to the Saturday morning Incest Survivor's meeting of Adult Children of Alcoholics. We meet to share the experience we had as children growing up in an incestuous home -- the way it affected us then and the way it affects us now.  By practicing the 12-Steps, focusing on the Solution, and accepting a Higher Power of our understanding, we find freedom from the denial of the effects of incest.  We identify with the Situation and learn to live in the Solution, one day at a time.  We wish at last to find our real self.

                I have asked ____________________ to read the Definition.

                I have asked ____________________ to read the Situation.

                I have asked ____________________ to read the Solution.

                I have asked ____________________ to read the 12-Steps.

If you are attending this meeting for the first time, please tell us your first name.  This is not to embarrass you, but so we can get to know you better.

Welcome.  Keep coming back.  This program is not easy, but if you can handle six meetings in a row, you will start to come out of denial. This will give you freedom from the past. Both you and your life will change. You may ask for phone numbers, you do not need to give out your phone number.  We do not have a phone list. By attending six meetings in a row at the beginning and regularly thereafter we come to know and act as our real self.  We do this by identifying with our common Situation and Solution. We choose to become our own loving parent. We come out of denial and share the pain of childhood memories. We experience love and acceptance from members of our ACOA family group. We grow to awareness that feelings of the past and present form a pattern.  We learn that pattern can change.  So please keep coming back. Listen, learn, and most of all, share your feelings.

Please ask before touching or hugging someone.

This is a discussion meeting of feelings and experiences. What you hear at this meeting, leave at this meeting. It is not for public disclosure. Please respect the privacy of those who share here today.

The intention of this group is to provide a safe place for sharing. We understand that many of us have anger over past problems. This is not a place to act out problems on the rest of the group.  Emotional expression is encouraged, but not when it is directed at others.

Respect for Newcomers -- Newcomers can be particularly vulnerable to emotional, financial, and sexual abuses. Some people attending meetings who have not grown beyond their victim/victimizer scripts may attempt to meet their needs through manipulation of newcomers. This is called "The 13th Step," which violates the safety of the meeting and is not part of our program. The love and respect we offer to Newcomers is a reflection of the love and respect we are learning to offer ourselves.

The focus of this meeting is Incest Survivors. We understand that most perpetrators of incest are also victims of incest and, as victims, are welcome here.  However, for the safety of the rest of the group, let us be clear that no sharing regarding perpetration of incest is welcome.

We are learning to practice self-discipline in sharing the opportunity to speak.  To allow as many people as possible a chance to share, each person is welcome to speak for four minutes, without interruption or cross-talk. Would someone like to begin?

11:15am It is now time for our Seventh Tradition, which states that "every ACOA family group should be self-supporting, declining outside contributions."

Does anyone have any announcements?

(There will be a step meeting after a short break, ACOA functions, money balance, group conscience, new additions to the library, non-ACOA announcements)

We have __________ minutes left for sharing.  The meeting is again open for sharing.

11:25am That's all we have time for. If you still feel the need to share, please stay after the meeting and find someone to talk to. Thank you for joining us -- and keep coming back.

I have asked __________ to read the Promises.

Please join me in a circle holding hands. (The leader says) "This circle reminds us that we need never stand alone again. Please join me in the Serenity Prayer."

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

(The group holding hands says,) "Keep coming back because it works if you work it and you're worth it."

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