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The Las Vegas ACOA Incest Survivor's Situation

Many of us found that we had several characteristics in common as a result of too early sexual experiences that were either overt or covert sexual abuses.

When the subject of sexual abuse is raised we may feel quesy, nauseous, or hostile. When pressured in situations we cannot control, especially those dealing with sex or authority figures, we tend to run away, sometimes without knowing we have done so.

The experience of sexual abuse effects our daily lives in a variety of ways. It interfered in our entering into realistic and healthy relationships, sexual and otherwise.

Although in some cases there may have been no physical contact, there is a crossing of the natural boundaries that allow children to develop independently and experience their own sexuality. This is also a violation of trust we experienced at the hands of those who were supposed to be our protectors.

We found we had distortions in our thinking and in our beliefs and opinions concerning our own sexuality and that of the opposite sex, and about sex in general, because of growing up in a sexually abusive home.

We may have engaged in a variety of compulsive behaviors to stuff our memories and feelings, such as drug or alcohol abuse, eating disorders, compulsive spending, gambling, and workaholism. We may suffer from sexual disorders such as compulsive masturbation, compulsive voyeurism, or other sexual obsessions.

We tend to isolate and feel uneasy around other people. Our lives are a constant struggle to maintain control. We have difficulty trusting. Our relationships, when attempted, either duplicate the abuse of our childhood, or are with individuals that we can control. During sex, we tend to disassociate, watching ourselves as if from a distance instead of being fully involved in the moment.

More often than not, we confuse affection and nurturing with our sexuality and perhaps become promiscuous in the process.

We often somatize our emotional pain and may suffer from headaches, lower bowel dysfunction, ulcers, urinary tract infections, and a host of other health problems, frequently from a very early age.

Also we are often now aware that we are feeling shameful and isolating ourselves or feeling guilty because of those feelings we subconsciously disguise by anger, resentment, perfectionism, blame, etc.

This is a description, not an indictiment.

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